Thank you for yet another excellent article which touched me deeply and left me in tears. I have endured a psychologically abusive relationship for over 30 years and only now with hindsight and articles like yours understand how I got myself into this situation. My husband has taken a career break and is working overseas for 2 years. I refused to go with him which has given me the opportunity to rediscover myself. Initially I did a lot of grieving. Then procrastination. Then some self discovery and healing. But I am still struggling to find my purpose. I can’t ‘seek help’ as my husband is medical and can check my medical records (which is against the rules but rules never apply to him). Plus the medical world here is small and word gets round. So I am doing my best to help myself. Your gentle supporting nature shines through your articles and is the best help I have found. Thank you.
Such a moving message HL. It feels worthwhile for me writing this newsletter when I read sharings like this and I honour you for having the courage to write about your experiences on this page. I'm so sorry to hear of the deep suffering you have endured over the years. I'm also hopeful to hear of your journey of healing, understanding and self discovery. I know there are other people who read this newsletter who are currently, or have been, in similar situations, so thank you for giving a personal voice to this very challenging, human experience. This is the power of community, and I really hope that you will join the HSP Revolution membership community in the new year 2023, where we can continue these conversations. Sending you my deepest support.
Such an interesting article, I felt it so deeply. Work is extremely difficult right now & you have explained why all of my current work colleagues are behaving so poorly towards me. I have no wish to be a threat to them, but their daily hostile behaviour is mentally & physically taking its toll. I cannot report it as my supervisor has been a close friend to the ringleader for 40 years. You have given me a new perspective & I feel stronger knowing I’m surrounded by weak men.
Sarah, I appreciate your sharing and so pleased this newsletter has given you a different perspective. It sounds like an incredibly tough work situation, so I hope you have support outside. I do also hope you’ll join the HSP Revolution membership community in January 2023 as these situations can feel very isolating and there’s such a power in a supportive community space. I’ll be running an in person HSP retreat in springtime 2023 for those who are interested.
Thank you for this article, it resonates with me so clearly, especially the part about people in authority feeling uncomfortable around you. I have experienced that a lot and never understood why. I also wanted to mention than people don’t always gaslight intentionally as you have described so perfectly, it can often be a defensive reaction when faced with uncomfortable feelings they are unable to process properly. With therapy my partner and I have managed to work through this situation and he has, at last faced his ‘demons’ and is in a much happier and healthier place as is our relationship. Thank you for continuing to share your insightful work.
Helen, it's really great to hear from you and thanks so much for sharing how this newsletter resonates with you. I'm so pleased to hear you have been able to find a therapist who could help you work through this situation in your relationship. I do hope you'll join the HSP Revolution community in January. It would be wonderful to have you there :-)
Thank you for yet another excellent article which touched me deeply and left me in tears. I have endured a psychologically abusive relationship for over 30 years and only now with hindsight and articles like yours understand how I got myself into this situation. My husband has taken a career break and is working overseas for 2 years. I refused to go with him which has given me the opportunity to rediscover myself. Initially I did a lot of grieving. Then procrastination. Then some self discovery and healing. But I am still struggling to find my purpose. I can’t ‘seek help’ as my husband is medical and can check my medical records (which is against the rules but rules never apply to him). Plus the medical world here is small and word gets round. So I am doing my best to help myself. Your gentle supporting nature shines through your articles and is the best help I have found. Thank you.
Such a moving message HL. It feels worthwhile for me writing this newsletter when I read sharings like this and I honour you for having the courage to write about your experiences on this page. I'm so sorry to hear of the deep suffering you have endured over the years. I'm also hopeful to hear of your journey of healing, understanding and self discovery. I know there are other people who read this newsletter who are currently, or have been, in similar situations, so thank you for giving a personal voice to this very challenging, human experience. This is the power of community, and I really hope that you will join the HSP Revolution membership community in the new year 2023, where we can continue these conversations. Sending you my deepest support.
Such an interesting article, I felt it so deeply. Work is extremely difficult right now & you have explained why all of my current work colleagues are behaving so poorly towards me. I have no wish to be a threat to them, but their daily hostile behaviour is mentally & physically taking its toll. I cannot report it as my supervisor has been a close friend to the ringleader for 40 years. You have given me a new perspective & I feel stronger knowing I’m surrounded by weak men.
Sarah, I appreciate your sharing and so pleased this newsletter has given you a different perspective. It sounds like an incredibly tough work situation, so I hope you have support outside. I do also hope you’ll join the HSP Revolution membership community in January 2023 as these situations can feel very isolating and there’s such a power in a supportive community space. I’ll be running an in person HSP retreat in springtime 2023 for those who are interested.
Thank you for this article, it resonates with me so clearly, especially the part about people in authority feeling uncomfortable around you. I have experienced that a lot and never understood why. I also wanted to mention than people don’t always gaslight intentionally as you have described so perfectly, it can often be a defensive reaction when faced with uncomfortable feelings they are unable to process properly. With therapy my partner and I have managed to work through this situation and he has, at last faced his ‘demons’ and is in a much happier and healthier place as is our relationship. Thank you for continuing to share your insightful work.
Helen, it's really great to hear from you and thanks so much for sharing how this newsletter resonates with you. I'm so pleased to hear you have been able to find a therapist who could help you work through this situation in your relationship. I do hope you'll join the HSP Revolution community in January. It would be wonderful to have you there :-)