"Since HSPs feel so intensely, many of us find ourselves becoming reactive during emotionally-charged conversations. When we’re triggered, the logical, problem-solving part of our brain shuts down, and communication goes wrong. "
This very often happens with me when getting into discussions with my partner, and I beat myself up for 'not knowing what to say' - although I'm very aware that I can feel my defences rise and my heart starts to quicken slightly I didn't consider this would be effecting the problem solving part of my brain... totally explains this experience.
I'll be able to watch for this and I can, if need be, ask for some time to think about what is being said... I always have the answers five minutes later, at which point the discussion has moved on.
My partner is very much thinking and verbal communication oriented, so finds this kind of discussion comes second nature... not so with me.
James, thanks for such an honest and insightful share. I am delighted to read about your lightbulb moment! It’s fascinating to recognise that for some of us due to our innate temperaments and more finely tuned nervous system which is prone to becoming overstimulated more quickly, we can lose access to our logical, clear thinking, problem solving brain. Would love to know how you get on with the above!
Thankyou for this... lightbulb moment for me! :)
"Since HSPs feel so intensely, many of us find ourselves becoming reactive during emotionally-charged conversations. When we’re triggered, the logical, problem-solving part of our brain shuts down, and communication goes wrong. "
This very often happens with me when getting into discussions with my partner, and I beat myself up for 'not knowing what to say' - although I'm very aware that I can feel my defences rise and my heart starts to quicken slightly I didn't consider this would be effecting the problem solving part of my brain... totally explains this experience.
I'll be able to watch for this and I can, if need be, ask for some time to think about what is being said... I always have the answers five minutes later, at which point the discussion has moved on.
My partner is very much thinking and verbal communication oriented, so finds this kind of discussion comes second nature... not so with me.
James, thanks for such an honest and insightful share. I am delighted to read about your lightbulb moment! It’s fascinating to recognise that for some of us due to our innate temperaments and more finely tuned nervous system which is prone to becoming overstimulated more quickly, we can lose access to our logical, clear thinking, problem solving brain. Would love to know how you get on with the above!