Interesting. Thank you for another insightful post.
In my own experience, I notice when other people over-apologise. However, I tend to assert myself quite well, only to capitulate if I sense rejection and then I fall in to self doubt, probably because of the "need" to be a people pleaser. It seems to me that most people don't communicate how they're really feeling in the moment. It's very complex.
Thanks for sharing your experiences Julia. It is complex but I think you've hit on a key point here that so often many of us don't communicate how we're feeling clearly enough in the moment (even when we believe we might be).
I found this post incredibly helpful too. Thank you Dr Genevieve. I was recently thinking about how often I apologise on a daily basis and that to people who know me well it actually must seem slightly insincere. Today, I’ve practiced using thank you -where appropriate - instead and it felt uplifting. I know it’ll take a long time but I am going to really try to limit the amount of times I say sorry, and make sure I genuinely mean it when I say it.
Delighted that this newsletter resonated Ruth. It's great to hear that you put this into practice yesterday and that you discovered an immediate difference in how you felt. It's amazing how with a little more awareness on the words we use and the actions we take, what a real difference it can make to our daily lives. Thank you for sharing your insights!
Interesting. Thank you for another insightful post.
In my own experience, I notice when other people over-apologise. However, I tend to assert myself quite well, only to capitulate if I sense rejection and then I fall in to self doubt, probably because of the "need" to be a people pleaser. It seems to me that most people don't communicate how they're really feeling in the moment. It's very complex.
Thanks for sharing your experiences Julia. It is complex but I think you've hit on a key point here that so often many of us don't communicate how we're feeling clearly enough in the moment (even when we believe we might be).
I found this post incredibly helpful too. Thank you Dr Genevieve. I was recently thinking about how often I apologise on a daily basis and that to people who know me well it actually must seem slightly insincere. Today, I’ve practiced using thank you -where appropriate - instead and it felt uplifting. I know it’ll take a long time but I am going to really try to limit the amount of times I say sorry, and make sure I genuinely mean it when I say it.
Delighted that this newsletter resonated Ruth. It's great to hear that you put this into practice yesterday and that you discovered an immediate difference in how you felt. It's amazing how with a little more awareness on the words we use and the actions we take, what a real difference it can make to our daily lives. Thank you for sharing your insights!