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Kristina's avatar

You are so right about thinking through the feelings, talking about them and analysing them all in an attempt to avoid feeling them. And it's the avoidance that causes the tension, the anxiety and the panic. If I can let go and allow myself to feel in my body the tears come and with them the release and the feeling moves on. It's so hard to do and so worth while. It helps if you can find someone to hold you who will do just that until the storm passes. They don't have to be HSP but they do have to understand about holding, not talking and not fixing.

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Emmie's avatar

I’d also include incongruence (ie when nonverbal behaviour contradicts a person's words). I’m hyper aware of this and it sets off all my internal alarm bells – I have to remove myself from the person or situation and if I can’t, it causes real internal distress

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